I know we’ve all been through one of the most confusing states that we could ever be in our lifetime one way or another.
And that is deciphering whether a man is romantically into us or not.
It’s probably one of the most worry-inducing yet wildly interesting (curious me, sorry) part of being a woman, whether in a relationship, or single and dating.
So, to help ease all our minds and encourage peace within, let me list down things that we should take in consideration when we are at our wit’s end during this tumultuous (WTF, dictionary!) and restless times.
1. He’s not around you
This is the biggest – and probably most noticeable. If a man likes you, he will find a way to get close to you, physically.
Once he decides he likes you, there will be a need for him to be in your environment thus propelling him to even go out of his way sometimes just to be “around” you.
Pay close attention!
If a man is not asking you out on a real date, (when in a relationship) disappears for days or weeks and acts like it’s not a big deal – then do both yourself a favor and strut your sexy butt away.
2. He talks to you about being interested in other girls comfortably.
Woman. If that man not only talks about other girls to you – but talks about wanting them on a more physical level, even wanting to date them – that’s a VERY clear sign he’s not seeing you as a romantic pursuit.
For the love of me, walk-stride-hop-run-gallop away.
3. He has no interest in talking to you.
This is a very direct action – or in this case, lack of action – that would tell you he’s just not interested.
BUT do not immediately assume his disinterest based on his inability to reply to your text messages within X number of minutes.
Texting habits are a little tricky to decode when it comes to men.
So, just go with the general rule – If the person has enough time to talk to you and NEVER ACTS ON IT, then that’s a clear sign he’s not interested.
I remember I once told a girlfriend that if he has time to do leisurely things (i.e., cleaning the booger up his nose, etc.) then he should still be very able to text you. Remember, a simple text can take up as little as less than a minute of his time.
Take that information in and let it reverberate. Ba-da-boom, ba-da-boom.
4. His body language/general behavior.
I think humans are built with the ability to decode non-verbal messages through body language. Some people are better at it, but all of us have been equipped with this skill.
So I know that it will be very obvious when someone is not focused on you – avoiding eye contact, positioning his body away from you, not engaging in the conversation so that means no smiling and no nodding to show interest.
I remember a TED talk that I’ve watched about body language and business. And do you know what they said? – that the most powerful CEOs in the world are also the most adept in reading non-verbal language. Yep.
So think like a boss. Observe non-verbal cues and act appropriately.
5. He’s always busy. He always disappears.
A man will make the time for a woman he’s interested in. Period.
If you are in a relationship and he takes vacations from the relationship with no warning it means he isn’t worried about losing you, and this is never a good sign.
If a man knows for certain that you’ll always be there waiting in the wings, no matter how badly he behaves, he won’t respect you and he definitely won’t want to commit to you.
His disappearing acts serve more as a way to let you know this relationship isn’t serious and he is still free to do what he wants. It’s his way of letting you know that you aren’t a deciding factor in where he goes and what he does.
And that, for me, spells… R-U-N.
Yep. I will run, bunny, run – away from that man.
6. He constantly flakes on you.
When a man says he’d do one thing for you and does not follow through, sets up date at the last minute, keeps on rescheduling dates, and CONSTANTLY stands you up during dates (i.e. does not show up) – he doesn’t want you.
To be fair – If a guy did miss out on a date once, or even twice (due to valid reasons) – he will go out of his way to make it up to you. Tested and proven.
7. There’s no difference between how he talks to you vs. other friends. Casual tone of voice.
This is something that I am personally keen about.
If a man talks to me like how he talks to his buddies, I make it a point to put him in his proper place – my highly guarded “friendzone” universe and I make sure he never gets out. Haha.
Anyhoo, when a man is interested in you, it will show. However subtle – the way a man acts, therefore the way he speaks – with and around the woman he wants will have a noticeable difference.
As a basic dating rule, always be observant of how he interacts with people in general.
…To be continued…
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